Posts Tagged ‘Parenting’

“Sacred Travel” to a Park

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009 by Angela

It was a average day and it looked like rain. I had several errands to run before work and didn’t have much time. My son who is 2 really wanted to go to the park. I scheduled out the morning and worked it out to have about an hour to get to and from the park and have maybe 45 mins to play there and then I would go straight to work.

As the morning progressed, things were moving along and of course you don’t plan for the little detours that happen. The time was getting tighter. I looked at the clock and I have 35 minutes to go to the park. My mind went back and forth- go, not go. I had all the reasons in the world to not go- not enough time, it probably will rain, etc. 

Suddenly, I remember what I had learned from Judith Wright over the years on the sacred travel trips and pilgrimages she leads each year. We would be in a different city and we would have a small window of time. She would have us go into a museum and see one specific painting she read about or go into a temple and pray and meditate or wherever she would have us go. We would take in the awe and wonderment of that place in a short period of time realizing you don’t really need that much time to have a great experience yet I know I tell myself all the time that I need more time to do it. 

With that memory, I said we are going to the park. I cruised there with my son in the baby jogger, me in my work attire and computer bag. We got to the park and I set my timer for 22 minutes. I told my son we only have a small time to play and let’s go. He had a blast in those 22 minutes. He went up and down the slide several times, hung from the monkey bars. He even met a little friend who lives close to where I work and I met her mom. We all connected in a short period of time. I felt I had a pilgrimage moment at a park.

I am grateful for the lessons I have learned on the trips Judith Wright has lead. I have learned how to experience life more fully and it has transformed how I travel and how I take “mini” trips every day.

Liar, liar, pants on fire. Instill the principle of truth and fight back against lying in your family!

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009 by Beryl

Not again! Your child has just lied to you, and then compounded the situation by denying it. You’re angry and frustrated. What do you do?

Don’t freak out – lying is a natural stage that every child goes through! It is normal for a child to test the limits to get attention. Most children lie because they are afraid to tell the truth – just like adults they have already formed beliefs about the “okayness” of the truth”.

If a child doesn’t learn to get positive attention, they will surely seek out negative attention. So give them the positive attention that they crave. Underline the positive moves that they make and the things that they do well. Ask them open-ended questions about their answers, such as “tell me about what’s underneath the lying”. Create a safe space for them to learn about telling the truth, and give them lots of positive reinforcement for “fessing up” to a lie they have told.
Share your journey with the truth with them and what’s underneath lying for you – it will create a sense of mutuality with your child that will open a more open and honest dialogue that may continue for years to come.

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Raising a Billionaire – Parent Advice from Bill Gates, Sr.

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009 by Gertrude

Guess who gave this response when asked what the best advice he ever got was?

“Well, my dad and my mom were great at encouraging me as a kid to do things that I wasn’t good at, to go out for a lot of different sports like swimming, football, soccer, and I didn’t know why. At the time I thought it was kind of pointless, but it ended up really exposing me to leadership opportunities and showing me that I wasn’t good at a lot of things, instead of sticking to things that I was comfortable with. It was fantastic, and now some of those activities I cherish. They had to stick to it because I pushed back a lot, but it was fantastic advice.” (Fortune, July 2008)

Unless you saw the article in Fortune magazine I doubt you would guess it was Microsoft billionaire, Bill Gates. I know I would not have because I would think someone so successful would say the best advice he got was more directly business focused. But as a mom I am really struck by both the simplicity of it and the power of it. To me the point isn’t so much that his parents just put him in a bunch of activities. I see it as guiding my children to develop as many aspects of themselves as they can and to stick with the ones that are challenging and not give up.  I like remembering that I can be strategic and set standards for my family around participating in diverse activities.  We have said things like you will play so many different types of sports and you will master one of them. We also expect challenges and failures and strategize how we are going to deal with them ahead of time. As I am writing this I am bubbling with just how rich the “advice” from Mr. Gates is. Let me know what you are thinking and I will add more in my next blog. Gertrude